tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.comments2020-12-20T23:55:46.537+01:00adifferentlifeA Different Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-52798719881040103342020-12-20T23:55:46.537+01:002020-12-20T23:55:46.537+01:00I'm glad you're getting a tree! I've b...I'm glad you're getting a tree! I've been enjoying ours this year. I'm going to bake some holiday treats too, which I don't usually do but I feel like it this year! :)Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-57274693819676060272020-12-20T06:21:17.827+01:002020-12-20T06:21:17.827+01:00I love this whole post! I'm glad you are getti...I love this whole post! I'm glad you are getting a tree. We have an artificial tree that we've had since 1989! I love my tree, and the decorations for it. I get a lot of pleasure from it. And I do from the food (I've been baking today), music, etc. And we also get peace and quiet, which is nice. I hope you have a lovely Christmas.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-8217279909233406632020-12-19T18:28:25.149+01:002020-12-19T18:28:25.149+01:00PS: I love that you are buying a Christmas tree th...PS: I love that you are buying a Christmas tree this year! That is excellent. You are worthy of having a Christmas tree as well <3.Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-75394914967313630272020-12-19T18:16:29.157+01:002020-12-19T18:16:29.157+01:00Dear TingTing,
Yes, this year is different for al...Dear TingTing, <br />Yes, this year is different for all of us. In general Christmas can be very hard for the childless not by choice, because it centers so much around children and family. But you are right: of course we can have a beautiful Christmas, too! It is all about reclaiming this holiday and finding out what we like about this season even if we don't have kids. I also baked cookies this year :-). And my tradition between Christmas and New Year's Eve has always been to read a lot, eat chocolates and go for walks in nature. This is still feasible this year, at least in my country :-).<br />Much love!Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-52127032413962044612020-11-09T18:01:47.445+01:002020-11-09T18:01:47.445+01:00Hi Elaine, thank you! Workhout helps me so much! ...Hi Elaine, thank you! Workhout helps me so much! I learned German in University, and Japanese too. But I almost forget all Japanese ;-) A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-47537797242909574232020-11-06T21:50:41.598+01:002020-11-06T21:50:41.598+01:00Dear TingTing,
My doctor once told me that exercis...Dear TingTing,<br />My doctor once told me that exercise is the best antidepressant. If you go for a run regularly, this is excellent not only for your body but also for your soul :-). Well done! Also, being out in nature on hikes must have lifted your spirits - it sounds lovely.<br />I am intrigued that you listen to podcasts in German. How did you learn German?<br />By the way, I like your dragon, too :-).<br />Much love,<br />ElaineElainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-53053539755843323222020-11-03T12:14:08.166+01:002020-11-03T12:14:08.166+01:00Thank you, Phoenix! Happy to knnow your october is...Thank you, Phoenix! Happy to knnow your october is fine too. I love your quilt work. Your post motivated me to try knitting. I am trying to knitt a pullover. I am a beginner. I hope I can finish it. Stay Healthy! :-) A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-71414156479529515792020-11-03T05:47:23.335+01:002020-11-03T05:47:23.335+01:00Very nice! I keep thinking to myself that I want t...Very nice! I keep thinking to myself that I want to exercise again. I know it helps me feel better. But I haven't added it into my routine yet... I spent my October working, resting, and sewing. I'm grateful to have a job, but everything feels harder these days so I'm trying to be patient with myself. That is easier said than done. :) I really like your picture. I thought it looked like a dragon before I even read your description of it. Wishing you a lovely, safe, and healthy November!Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-33221385733037720912020-10-25T20:02:56.781+01:002020-10-25T20:02:56.781+01:00Thank you so much Elaine! I got much courage and e...Thank you so much Elaine! I got much courage and energy from your blog. It like yoga for me. I really love your blog! A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-26195972107544117112020-10-14T18:22:41.418+02:002020-10-14T18:22:41.418+02:00Yes, it does feel this way, doesn't it, especi...Yes, it does feel this way, doesn't it, especially in the beginning. But I do think we take good care of each other in our little CNBC community... and I think that is worth a lot <3.Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-59873706266780819212020-10-14T18:16:50.319+02:002020-10-14T18:16:50.319+02:00Dear TingTing,
I am both happy and sad reading th...Dear TingTing,<br /><br />I am both happy and sad reading this. I am happy because your aunt wanted to help you and feels with you. But I am sad that you felt low on that day, too. Not having the energy to cook is something that was very familiar to me in grief.<br /><br />I didn't ask my family for support either. Mostly because they all live too far away, but also because it was something too private for me. Later on my sister went through IVF and my parents supported her by driving her to treatments etc. I then realized that this probably gave her strength and wouldn't have been a bad thing to do. But well - things are as they are now. I have learned to accept my life as it is and after 5 1/2 years, I really am mostly very well.<br /><br />It is good to find out what things help you feel better. If writing helps you or yoga or anything else, then keep doing it! It's important to take good care of yourself.<br /><br />Much love!Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-24602614608622633932020-10-02T09:31:25.832+02:002020-10-02T09:31:25.832+02:00My family is less stronger than I. I have to get t...My family is less stronger than I. I have to get them to know it is not the worst thing in the world. A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-35652150103769180882020-10-02T04:52:06.960+02:002020-10-02T04:52:06.960+02:00Sometimes it is really hard when others are more u...Sometimes it is really hard when others are more uncomfortable with our lives without kids than we are. It makes us doubt ourselves, and our decisions. I'm glad you feel a little better now.<br /><br />By the way, I would be very happy with Pho OR fried rice noodles. Yum!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-90810563339001428712020-09-27T12:03:42.685+02:002020-09-27T12:03:42.685+02:00👍
👍 <br />A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-80779449897401182922020-09-27T01:47:56.677+02:002020-09-27T01:47:56.677+02:00The flowers are beautiful! And I'm glad you ar...The flowers are beautiful! And I'm glad you are able to be yourself again.<br /><br />I also do not understand people who don't want to wear masks. Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-3198419582307733972020-09-26T20:41:15.485+02:002020-09-26T20:41:15.485+02:00It really help me to see happy women without kids....It really help me to see happy women without kids. Sometimes I feel sad because even I did not realize there are so many great women around me without kids. I mean I feel no one really cares about us..... A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-91904496801368358102020-09-26T20:29:36.546+02:002020-09-26T20:29:36.546+02:00Thank you Mali. Bloging make me feeling better. I ...Thank you Mali. Bloging make me feeling better. I am so glad to know you all. A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-89240556242598606752020-09-26T10:52:40.830+02:002020-09-26T10:52:40.830+02:00I am glad that you don't feel as alone anymore...I am glad that you don't feel as alone anymore as in the beginning. It was the same for me: first I thought I was the only one who couldn't have kids. All my friends seemed to fall pregnant! Then, after the deepest grief was behind me, I realized there are many more of us, also in the real world, not only online.<br /><br />This is wonderful, that you have such a good role model in your professor. We don't always know the full story, but we don't always need to either. It is helpful enough to see that other women who don't have children are happy :-).Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-73686879006640070012020-09-21T02:58:18.227+02:002020-09-21T02:58:18.227+02:00Oops, I've been slow with my reading. I'm ...Oops, I've been slow with my reading. I'm so glad you have been warmly welcomed. That's why we all blog!<br /><br />This is a lovely story. Once we stop treatments/adoption proceedings etc, we realise how many role models we have. I am glad you feel less alone now.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-82886840365614918262020-09-14T20:08:36.263+02:002020-09-14T20:08:36.263+02:00Life is beautiful like that woman said https://inf...Life is beautiful like that woman said https://infertilephoenix.blogspot.com/2018/08/beautiful-life.htmlA Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-65942176836806596812020-09-14T20:07:13.081+02:002020-09-14T20:07:13.081+02:00😊😊A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-85396298194912255672020-09-14T19:45:59.080+02:002020-09-14T19:45:59.080+02:00(((Hugs))) back at you! Your mention made my day. ...(((Hugs))) back at you! Your mention made my day. :) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-42474529015307859202020-09-13T20:02:03.326+02:002020-09-13T20:02:03.326+02:00It's okay. You have to focus on the medical tr...It's okay. You have to focus on the medical treatments when you are doing them. That's the only way to get through them. I didn't see a lot during that time period of my life, but I used what energy I had to just get through each day. <3<br /><br />I really like what your professor said. It is simple and profound: "You do not need a baby!"Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-13356866187264827342020-09-09T21:26:55.489+02:002020-09-09T21:26:55.489+02:00No, Mali. I am reading all your blogs. It give me ...No, Mali. I am reading all your blogs. It give me so much energy. I love it. A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3250000059809012875.post-51230775295622925682020-09-05T12:27:16.753+02:002020-09-05T12:27:16.753+02:00no, absolut not. :-) no, absolut not. :-) A Different Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06739912715962403341noreply@blogger.com